I am no longer aroused during breast foreplay with my husband, now that I am breastfeeding. Any advice?
I know the difference between my husband and my baby, but now that my breast are “for the baby” and not “for mine and my husbands pleasure, I find it hard to allow my husband to mess with them. When he tries I feel awkward.
You know I had the same problem when I was breastfeeding. I guess it was basically all in my head, I fed the baby and didnt feel right when he was touching them..It almost made me feel like he was doing something wrong. My youngest is 3 now and now that I dont breastfeed everythings fine, he can touch them again.
I really dont know what to suggest to get past it because honestly i couldnt get past it until she wasnt breastfeeding anymore..
But I can gurantee once there no longer babies food, they will become hubbys again..
I agree with kitty on this. There are also physiological and psychological reasons for your discomfort. The most simple reason being that breast stimulation of any kind results in lactation, right now your breasts serve only the purpose of feeding your infant and signals that used to be associated with sexual arousal now only tell your brain it’s time to feed the baby. It’s disturbing to associate sexual arousal with your child & I’d bet that’s why it’s disturbing to you when your husband touches them.
So here’s my advice to you as both a future doctor and someone who breast fed for a year. The bottom line is that your breasts are part of your body and you have the right to tell your husband not to touch you in a way that makes you uncomfortable. I remember those feelings (kinda creepy/gross) and they not only made me want to push his hands away, it also made me not want to have sex anymore. I think you could explain your feelings to your husband in a kind/gentle way that lets him understand that you want to be intimate with him but he should respect the fact that you cannot enjoy sex with him because it gives you a creepy feeling when he touches your breasts. Good luck