Periods and boyfriend: advice and personal stories please (will choose best answer)?
My boyfriend and I had a fight last night. Mainly because I was upset because of my period. First he doesn’t believe me. He doesn’t believe that a woman’s emotions don’t make sense and they get upset about things like not going out to lunch because of their periods. He also thinks pain for periods is not a reason for women to be mean to other people, and although it’s not a reason (or is it?), it’s hard to do. So how do I get thru to my boyfriend? He keeps trying to apply logic to periods, and Isn’t willing to get that periods are not a logical system. How do GOOD men deal with periods? I will report things that are not answers and/or are offensive.
well my boyfriend is very mature about the subject. I’ll tell him the day my period starts so he knows we can’t get frisky lol. And of course he is bummed, but he treats me well with it. He knows i’m a little moody during my period, and he respects that. He’s always very helpful towards me anyways, but when I’m on my period, he is extra helpful, always making sure that I’m ok, getting my meds for cramps, and if I need anything. It’s really nice that he isn’t rude about it! I think the best way to talk to your boyfriend is just tell him how the cramps really hurt, and sometimes they are just too painful, and that you just feel like having days in on your period, hope this helps
Obviously no guy can fully understand a womans emotions, but a decent guy will at least try to understand. Explain to him that when a womans on her period, different hormones are being released, and it is actually scientifically proven to cause mood swings, its not out fault. Tell him to stop being such a d*** and get used to it, because pretty much every girl is the same. Ask him to do his research and he will find that ‘logically’ periods cause moodswings, cause cramps and all the hormones racing around our body cause us to get upset more than usual. And also tell him that theye not exactly the nicest thing to have either.
I guess it depends. My boyfriend is totally understanding of me when I PMS/period because I have major mood swings. But not all guys understand how periods affect our hormones and moods. Just try to explain it to him. Don’t be offended if he doesn’t understand, because after all, he’s not a girl
But as a boyfriend, I think he should try to understand you and your body because it’s important for a healthy relationship. You should also try to control your own mood swings too. It’s all about accepting each other. Good luck 
1. To us guys, women’s emotions don’t make sense. We are wired differently, you have to learn to accept that. Once you do, it gets easier.
2. Your hormones et al are completely out of whack, and the best things we can do as guys is to not take it personally, which is very hard to do, unless you are in a very deep, experienced relationship. He needs to be more mature in this, and if he and you are young and not in that type of relationship then he AND you need to work together.
Women react to things emotionally, they want to vent, guys want to apply logic and “solve” the problem, in fact even when no real problem exists. Your bf is trying to solve a problem that isn’t there, but he can’t see it, because you two haven’t been there too often (I’m guessing). You need to sit him down, and let him know it isn’t personal, something he thinks it is, and understand this when you deal with him again in 28 days.
Please understand it’s part of the basic misunderstanding that goes on between men and women.
I suggest you and your bf take some time away from each other when you have your monthly thing going on. I find some distance to be of help when the guy or girl for whatever reason is in a grumpy mood.
Also, he is right in a sense: period pains are not a reason for you to be mean to ANYONE. Just because you feel pain your stomach doesn’t mean you have the right to lash out at others (whether your bf or anyone else).
Men were not made to understand periods, unless they are gay(not meant as disrespect I have a lot of gay friends and they are very understanding and seem to have “male periods.”) Does this guy not get grumpy when he is sick? Does he skip out on activities because he feels like crap? Has he ever had “fluid” pour out of his body for several days? I had a male friend like this. I explained to him that I have a problem that causes heavy bleeding and extreme pain, and he still said the same things your guy did. I got rid of him fast. There are a lot of understanding men out there, that understand your issues and will get you a heating pad and drink if you asked. If you have not been with him too long, and even still i encourage you to find another guy. More then likely this guy is not going to change his way of thinking about this. And if he cared for you he would at lest listen and try to understand what you are going through.